(quick thoughts from while on the move) It's easy to point out the problems (especially when the problem is not with me). But its so hard to place the emphasis on the possible solutions, and then to do this in a way that encourages oneself and others. More often than not, when and if we even get to talking about the solution options, we start with "you should ..." There are few phrases more effective at raising my ire than the phrase "you should ..." The inferred or assumed authority and arrogance by the person who says "you should" quickly triggers my pride. Now you've doubled my problem: I have to deal with whatever challenge I'm facing and wrestle with my pride!
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Probably the best therapy is to express yourself. Why do you think psychiatrists make you lie on the couch and talk, while all they do is murmur "hmmm", "uhuh", or "go on"? Archives
May 2017
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